Approaching someone you’re concerned about
If you suspect someone close to you is struggling with an eating disorder, approaching them requires sensitivity, empathy, and a non-judgmental attitude. Here are some points to consider:
Choose the right time and place: Find a comfortable and private setting where you can have a calm and uninterrupted conversation without feeling rushed.
Express concern and empathy: Start the conversation by expressing your genuine concern for their well-being. Use “I” statements to convey your observations and feelings, such as “I’ve noticed that you seem to be struggling with food and I’m worried about you”.
Use open-ended questions: Ask open-ended questions that allow the person to express themselves and share their feelings. For example, you can ask, “How have you been feeling about your eating habits lately?” or “Is there something going on that’s been impacting your relationship with food?”.
Listen actively and validate their feelings: Give the person your full attention and listen without judgement. Validate their emotions and experiences by acknowledging that their feelings are valid and important. Avoid dismissing or minimising their concerns.
Avoid blame or criticism: Be careful not to place blame or criticise the person’s behaviour. Instead, focus on expressing your support and understanding. Let them know that you’re there to help and support them in any way you can.
Offer resources and professional help: Encourage them to speak with their GP in the first instance who may refer them to an eating disorder practitioner or support groups. You could offer to accompany them to appointments if it feels appropriate.
Maintain confidentiality and respect boundaries: Assure the person that you respect their privacy and will keep the conversation confidential unless there is an immediate risk to their safety. Respecting their boundaries is crucial in building trust and maintaining open communication.
Remember, approaching someone about an eating disorder is a delicate matter, and they may not be ready to acknowledge or accept help immediately. Be patient, supportive, and remind them that they don’t have to face it alone. Encourage them to reach out to professionals who can provide specialised care and support. Take a look at our directory to find relevant support near you.
